Why We Work

I knew right away that Nick and I would have something special. I just felt it. It was different from any of the past relationships that I had been in. I had been in love before but there was always something missing. When I first got to know Nick I knew that I had found it. That something missing.

It's not like our relationship is perfect. Far from it. We definitely don't always see eye to eye and we are both extremely stubborn and that can be difficult. But the reality is, we just get each other.

We share everything. I mean everything. He doesn't always like that part of the deal. I'm always stealing his shirts to sleep in. They just fit perfectly, and no, I can't go buy my own because that's not the same. We share our goals, our plans, and a vision for the future of our family. We share many of the same values and beliefs. We share a need to constantly be moving forward. Growing, learning, building.

We balance each other out. I tend to have a pretty relaxed attitude about things. I can generally keep pretty calm, especially when he gets worked up or frustrated about something. Some might call it lackadaisical, I like to call it going with the flow. Nick is more regimented and disciplined. Each of these qualities are good for the other one. He keeps me in check, and I tell him when he needs to calm the F down.

We like being together. I mean.. it can't get more basic than that. The person that you marry should probably someone that you generally like being around... all. the. time. I look forward to weekends the most when I know that it's just going to be the two of us. Even if it's a weekend full of projects, cleaning, and errand running. Those are the best weekends. And that's real life.

We've only been married a year and half or so, so I'm not going to even pretend like I know anything about what makes a marriage last. But I do know what I need out of a relationship in order to be successful in it. In general we are good at communicating with each other. That aspect can always be improved upon though. We agreed early on to try our best to never let issues fester.  I struggle with this one because I don't like to nag. And I don't really like to be told what to do either so I'm a work in progress on this one.

We never ever say unkind things to each other out of anger. This is a big one. I truly believe that if you say something hurtful on purpose, you can't ever take that hurt back. You can apologize and you can move past it but it's hard to forget about it. There are some things you just can't take back. ever.

If we start to bicker, especially if it's about something stupid {it's always about something stupid} we will both go off and do something on our own. I'm not talking leave the house, I'm talking go into the other room and fold laundry or watch TV and leave each other alone for a little bit. That's all it takes. Neither of us are "escalators" and thank God for that.

We love each other. This doesn't need an explanation. We just do.


I'm a day late, but I'm linking up with The Daily Tay for this fun little love fest.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Grading my 2014 Goals

I wrote this post at the beginning of January and completely forgot to post it. Now that we are a month into the new year let's see where I stand with the goals I set for myself when I was feeling inspired and ambitious.

 

I've never been one for new years resolutions. I've always avoided the gym for the first couple months of the year. I refuse to be lumped into the mass of people that only work out because of their new year resolution and just end up taking up machines at the gym so they can slowly walk and watch tv at the same time. Major pet peeve.

 

- Try to cut out processed meats. Specifically deli meats. My plan is to start cooking a whole chicken once every week or two to cut up/shred for lunch meat on salads and sandwiches. This is going to take some extra planning and preparation on my part but I think we will be both be better off for it. Adios sodium. This is actually happening.. or has happened at least two times so far this last month. So far I am a big fan of having fresh chicken in my fridge to snack on and for salads and pitas at lunch. Nick takes a big Tupperware full with him to work to put on his sandwiches. So far, so good.

 

- Start working out together at least a couple times a week. I love the idea of doing regular work outs with my hubs. It's hard not to fall into a routine of eating dinner and then sitting on the couch to watch a few shows. But, I want to at least do this a few days a week. Once it warms up again I also want to start playing tennis at least once a week at the tennis courts in our community. This has happened once twice. I made him to a Jillian Michaels video with me and it absolutely kicked both our butts. We like different work out music so I'm not sure if this is going to turn into a habit. I am listening to my girl B Spears Work Bitch on repeat, and he prefers 80's throw backs that just don't pump be up. Sorry husband.

- Find our permanent church and attend services on some kind of regular basis. We always go on Easter & Christmas no matter what but right now I feel like that's just not enough. I want to invest myself into my church home and really start building a relationship with a church family. We have a couple that we want to try out before we make the move from the church that Nick grew up in. I'm excited about this one! Also, a check mark on my 30 by 30. So far no movement on this one but we did talk about it the other night. I'm going to put a date on the calendar just to make sure we make it once before Easter. One step closer...

Okay so maybe I haven't been doing all that well but nothing has completely fallen off yet so I don't feel that bad.