Friday, February 14, 2014

Why We Work

I knew right away that Nick and I would have something special. I just felt it. It was different from any of the past relationships that I had been in. I had been in love before but there was always something missing. When I first got to know Nick I knew that I had found it. That something missing.

It's not like our relationship is perfect. Far from it. We definitely don't always see eye to eye and we are both extremely stubborn and that can be difficult. But the reality is, we just get each other.

We share everything. I mean everything. He doesn't always like that part of the deal. I'm always stealing his shirts to sleep in. They just fit perfectly, and no, I can't go buy my own because that's not the same. We share our goals, our plans, and a vision for the future of our family. We share many of the same values and beliefs. We share a need to constantly be moving forward. Growing, learning, building.

We balance each other out. I tend to have a pretty relaxed attitude about things. I can generally keep pretty calm, especially when he gets worked up or frustrated about something. Some might call it lackadaisical, I like to call it going with the flow. Nick is more regimented and disciplined. Each of these qualities are good for the other one. He keeps me in check, and I tell him when he needs to calm the F down.

We like being together. I mean.. it can't get more basic than that. The person that you marry should probably someone that you generally like being around... all. the. time. I look forward to weekends the most when I know that it's just going to be the two of us. Even if it's a weekend full of projects, cleaning, and errand running. Those are the best weekends. And that's real life.

We've only been married a year and half or so, so I'm not going to even pretend like I know anything about what makes a marriage last. But I do know what I need out of a relationship in order to be successful in it. In general we are good at communicating with each other. That aspect can always be improved upon though. We agreed early on to try our best to never let issues fester.  I struggle with this one because I don't like to nag. And I don't really like to be told what to do either so I'm a work in progress on this one.

We never ever say unkind things to each other out of anger. This is a big one. I truly believe that if you say something hurtful on purpose, you can't ever take that hurt back. You can apologize and you can move past it but it's hard to forget about it. There are some things you just can't take back. ever.

If we start to bicker, especially if it's about something stupid {it's always about something stupid} we will both go off and do something on our own. I'm not talking leave the house, I'm talking go into the other room and fold laundry or watch TV and leave each other alone for a little bit. That's all it takes. Neither of us are "escalators" and thank God for that.

We love each other. This doesn't need an explanation. We just do.

I'm a day late, but I'm linking up with The Daily Tay for this fun little love fest.

Happy Valentine's Day!


  1. I feel ya on so many of these!! It's hard to pinpoint what makes a relationship work I think, but as I wrote about it's also hard to see past the differences sometimes, so looking at all the basic tickings really helps. Balancing each other out seems like such a huge key to me, though I guess there are people who are just similar and get each other and don't need to balance... :)

    Anyhoo, good post and lovely pictures!

    1. You are so right! I think what it really comes down to is acknowledging the little things that do work, even if they aren't for everybody. Thanks for stopping by :)

  2. Loved reading this! You two seem like such a great couple! And I definitely agree that genuinely enjoying and looking forward to spending time with your significant other {regardless of what the activity will be} is SO important. Also loving your wedding photos -- so beautiful!

  3. I absolutely LOVE this post! Everything I was reading I'm thinking, " Oh my gosh, us too! Yes that too!". You two seem to have a wonderful connection and a strong foundation to build upon. I love it! And you're an extremely good looking couple :)



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